How Do I Help My Friend?

Often, we're afraid to try to help our friends because we fear they won't like us or trust us anymore. If you don't talk to your friend, who will? Friendship is all about doing whatever is best for the other person. While it might feel tough now, think about what may happen down the road if you don't try to do something.

How do I talk to my friend about drinking or drugs?

Your friend will probably tell you his drinking or drug use is not a big deal. Most people with drug or alcohol problems won't admit to having a problem. Don't let your friend's denial keep you from talking with him. If he continues to make bad decisions about drugs or alcohol, he could face serious consequences like getting caught or arrested, losing his driver's license, getting suspended, or more seriously, getting involved in a drug or alcohol-related car crash, overdosing, or becoming addicted.

Be clear where you stand; let your friend know you think there's a problem. Don't be judgmental or critical. Don't threaten. Just talk plainly and let your friend know you are talking to him because you care. Offer to help your friend check out some resources.

Here are some tips to help you talk to your friend: Talk to your friend one-on-one, not in a group of people.

Show your concern and speak in a caring way instead of just pointing a finger and making accusations. You could try something like, "You're my best friend and I really care about what happens to you, but you have been changing since you started using ___. I'm really worried and I want to help."

What if I Talk to My Friend and It Ends Our Friendship?

That's a risk you may have to take. If your friend pulls away from you, let him or her know you'll be there when they are ready to get help.